4 Thought Patterns That Hinder Your Relationship
As we try to build relationships to be the best they can be, we often let ourselves dwell on negative thoughts that will ruin a relationship over time.
While many think that these fears are just passing thoughts, for some they are just moments of doubt. However, for many more, there is a fear that is always gnawing in the back of their mind. Are you a victim of these four relationship killer fears?
1. My Partner Will Leave Me
This fear is the most common and most devastating fear many couples have to endure. There are two sides to this fear on how to handle it. On the one hand, you will always strive to be a better person, to keep that person’s interest, it makes you as a couple better. Yet, there is the instability aspect: if you are the best you can be and you still feel like you, and your partner are on shaky ground, there may be underlying reasons as to why. In this case, it may be best to evaluate the relationship in the most objective matter. Are they actively trying to make the relationship secure or are you following along wherever they venture?
2. I Know I Am Going to Get Hurt
I have to say this, this is something a lot of girls are notorious for, and it gets old fast. Not only does your partner start to feel pushed away over time, that simple statement means you do not want the relationship to get serious. When you are dating, there will be make-ups and break-ups, some are nastier than the others. You need to ask yourself if your current partner has done anything for you to elicit that wall. If they haven’t, either take it down or realize you will be falling into a vicious loop of a self-fulfilling prophesy.
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As we try to build relationships to be the best they can be, we often let ourselves dwell on negative thoughts that will ruin a relationship over time.
While many think that these fears are just passing thoughts, for some they are just moments of doubt. However, for many more, there is a fear that is always gnawing in the back of their mind. Are you a victim of these four relationship killer fears?
1. My Partner Will Leave Me
This fear is the most common and most devastating fear many couples have to endure. There are two sides to this fear on how to handle it. On the one hand, you will always strive to be a better person, to keep that person’s interest, it makes you as a couple better. Yet, there is the instability aspect: if you are the best you can be and you still feel like you, and your partner are on shaky ground, there may be underlying reasons as to why. In this case, it may be best to evaluate the relationship in the most objective matter. Are they actively trying to make the relationship secure or are you following along wherever they venture?
2. I Know I Am Going to Get Hurt
I have to say this, this is something a lot of girls are notorious for, and it gets old fast. Not only does your partner start to feel pushed away over time, that simple statement means you do not want the relationship to get serious. When you are dating, there will be make-ups and break-ups, some are nastier than the others. You need to ask yourself if your current partner has done anything for you to elicit that wall. If they haven’t, either take it down or realize you will be falling into a vicious loop of a self-fulfilling prophesy.
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